Hi all.
This is something that I am not comfortable doing. I know that many of my readers are struggling themselves - financially, emotionally, and probably both. Standing by the person you love, and your beliefs, often comes with a high price. That is why I maintain this blog, and do whatever I possibly can to shed light on the destruction of our families.
We had a disturbing experience over the weekend and learned some things we were not previously aware of, in terms of what some neighbors are doing to put our safety and stability in jeopardy. We are genuinely concerned for our welfare and have been advised by police to install a home surveillance system.
I researched and found the least expensive yet functional system, which is about $300. If there is anyone who is willing and able to donate even a small amount, it would be incredibly appreciated. We are continuing to work on raising our own money however possible, and please understand that we do not expect or assume anyone to help. It will help me to continue doing the things I do knowing that we have at least some semblance of protection. If there is anything at all I can do to help you out, I hope you will not hesitate to ask. Thank you, everyone, for your continued support.
OMG!! I really wish I was able to donate even $5 but I'm beyond broke. I'm so far in the hole I'm not sure I'll ever find my way out but when and if I do, you will be one of the first I pay it forward to. You have no idea how much I appreciate all your efforts. You and your story are what inspired me to speak out more and reading your blog is the ONE thing that made me realize even though some of our men are "guilty", that makes no difference. Until reading your blog I was having a hard time coping with DJ's "guilt" even though he has a similar story to yours. I'll never be able to express my heart felt gratitude to you but I pray for your continued blessings every day.
ReplyDeleteThank you Ladonna and please know your emotional support is just as important as any donation! I would not be where I am if it were not for the dedicated people who similarly give their time and effort to the cause.
ReplyDeleteShana, Please send me a message in private.. FB has me blocked from sending and receiving some messages..They have also prevented me from adding anyone new sometimes..However satan has been defeated and God is making miracles happen. If God allows and blesses us we can over come these problems with the grace of God.. I know you did Shana..and was satan was defeated.. because of Faith and Answered prayers. He will do it again... So to others that wish prayer support please try to add me if you care. Please add me as a family member..I pray that you will not be locked for adding me..or me adding you.. if you need this support..Thank you..Shana please share this information with those that ask you about me.
ReplyDeleteShana, Im broke right now, but I get paid in a couple of weeks. I will send you something then...if you can wait that long. My prayers are with you.
ReplyDeleteThank you Roze :)
DeleteShana;
ReplyDeleteSorry I'm tapped for another week or two, I wish you lived close, I would handle security myself.
Thank you. Just knowing that others support us helps.
Deleteplease give me your email address so i can talk to you privaely. the newspaper article was "WOW! someone knows exactly what we've gone trough and continuing to go thru." i want to help if i can although we are newly retired.
ReplyDeleteHi, feel free to email me at iloveanso@gmail.com
DeleteI sent off something. I hope it helps. Keep fighting and I'll do the same.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Sharon! Also, I checked out some of your more recent blog posts - AMAZING stuff, especially "The Forgotten Children". I'll be sharing that for sure.
DeleteDonated. Hope the little I gave helps. Not sure about the security system. Did some research and turns out having a nosy next door neighbor is the best protection. But if it makes you sleep better than it is worth every dime.
ReplyDeleteHi Shana,
ReplyDeleteI came to your blog because I found a letter to the editor you wrote back in Jan. http://cranston.patch.com/articles/letter-sex-offender-laws-ignore-future-victims
I wasn't expecting to see that you needed help with what some of the neighbors might do. I felt compelled to donate something. Feeling unsafe in your own home is not a good thing. I am sorry you have to go through that. One of the things I'm learning is when we are vocal for our cause it doesn't necessarily bring the best out in everyone.
At some point I would like to be able to write you on the life-sentence those of us who survive child sexual abuse experience. It might be good for you to understand what we mean when we say we have been given a life sentence. Let me know if this is okay. Rosie
Thanks Rosie. I appreciate it! Please feel free to write to me anytime. My email is iloveanso@gmail.com.
DeleteI'm not sure if you are aware, but that particular letter was written in response to someone else's, who (among other things) felt that putting up posters of local sex offenders was "helping victims". As you know, I feel that while just punishment for offenders is certainly necessary, equal resources should be delegated to prevention of these crimes in the first place. I also believe that victims should be provided with healthy, adequate recovery systems.
Anyway, I do appreciate that enduring abuse of any kind leaves a victim with a permanent scar or memory of what has happened. Everything we go through in life does that, and obviously experiencing something heinous often leaves a more considerable mark. The abuse I suffered at the hands of my ex husband is one of those things. I'll never forget it, and occasionally it still gets to me. However, I consider myself a survivor, not a victim. The day I decided to STOP concerning myself with what my abuser was doing/feeling/etc. was a wonderful day for me, because it gave me a big part of my life back. It felt incredible to realize I had the power in ME, it wasn't something he had taken from me. I know that's not easy and can take a long time to come to. But, that is what I meant by that statement, not to take away from the pain and suffering that abuse causes. My hope is for every victim to be able to feel that someday.